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Dear Todd Parker (06-01-2016)

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Dear Todd Parker,

I'm a recent graduate from one of the local universities. My time in school has been a lot of fun, but I'm ready to make my move into the real world and see what happens next.

My problem is my boyfriend. See, we've been together for the last couple of years, and I care about him very much. However, he's at least a year behind me; he won't graduate until next May at the earliest.

The thing is, I've been offered a job in Chicago starting in August. It's the perfect job for me - it's interesting, it's in my field, it pays well. It really is ideal.

But my boyfriend doesn't want me to go. He wants me to stay here with him (we've been living together for the last year), get a job and wait for him to graduate so we can move somewhere together. He doesn't want me to go anywhere without him because he's convinced I'm going to meet somebody else.

The problem is that I'm starting to think that maybe I do want to meet somebody else. He's always been a little jealous and clingy, but when he asked me to give up my dream job just to stay here with him, it was a bit of a wake-up call.

Am I wrong to want out? Am I just being selfish? Am I passing up true love or finally starting my own life? Help me, Todd.

Complicated in Old Town


Dear Complicated,

Short answer? Dump the loser. Like now. Kick him to the curb and don't look back.

Seriously, anyone who really loved you would be overjoyed at the opportunity you have received. Finding any job, let alone a dream job, these days is cause for celebration. The guy clearly is completely selfish and self-absorbed; he's not considering your feelings or needs in the slightest.

Guys like that are small and desperate; he has obviously realized that you are far and away the best he is ever going to do and so is clinging desperately by his fingernails to the possibility that he might be able to manipulate you into keeping him around.

Sounds to me like he's out of your league anyway. A smart, capable woman like yourself shouldn't be saddled with a bottom-feeding anchor like that jackass anyway. You should head off to the big city with no regrets and your head held high.

Of course, even if the job doesn't work out, you should still lose the loser. No Chicago, no problem. Just hang tight and wait for someone better to show up. And you better believe that he will probably sooner than you think.


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