Your hair needs moisture, so why are you stripping it every 12-24 hours by washing it? Go ahead, rinse it in the shower and add conditioner to the ends. Don't shampoo every day. You don't need to and it wrecks your hair. The most important thing I want you to add into your daily hair care regime is a leave-in conditioner. This is the first thing you are going to do after your shower and I love 'The Conditioner' by Paul Mitchell (it is also great to use for shaving your legs).
Let's give your hair a break and embrace the natural texture you hair has. Let's scrunch and air dry it. Start by running your fingers through your hair or use a wide tooth comb. You don't want to pull and stretch out the texture by combining it; this will cause frizz. This roughs it up and starts to really get the frizz started. Once the product is in and you have de-tangled, grab your towel and scrunch. Only use a towel for this, NOT your hands. Your hands are going to make it frizzy. You can use a low heat dryer with a diffuser if you need to. Best to let it air dry if you can, but you will get more volume using a diffuser. Got a date after work? Heat up the curling iron. You can polish your look with a few curls or waves added in with an iron. Maybe a little tease in the crown area, some hairspray and voila, day to night hair. Wait, did I say a "little" tease? Go for it and tease it to Jesus ladies, you have a date.
If you read all this and you're still stumped, I recommend a styling 101 course with your stylist. Reserve this time with them and tell them you need some styling tips. If they can't help, you may need to find a curly hair specialist. Now stop fussing with frizz, try these tips, rock your curls and enjoy your hair. Do you know how many people wish they had your curl? If you have more questions, I welcome them!