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The sunny side

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When I have downtime, I troll the interwebs where I am involved (in the virtual sense) with a couple of multiples groups online. I've made long-distance friends with several moms of multiples, and we trade tips, ask advice and even swap items (I totally nailed a great deal on a triplet stroller just last week solid).

But one of my friends recently posted about how someone called her fake for posting cute pictures and happy status updates about her life. The notion that someone's life is supposed to precisely mirror their Facebook statuses seems weird to me. With very few exceptions, I don't post pictures of my kids screaming or crying, I don't post pictures of myself looking like a hot mess, I keep my whiny status updates to a minimum (this is subject to debate, I'm sure), and to the untrained eye it may appear that I am just breezing through raising three kids while seamlessly maintaining a job and household. Let me just say, ha!

I keep my Facebook life upbeat for the same reason you tell the cashier at Hannaford that you're 'fine' when they ask how you are even if you're buying chicken soup, tissues, cough drops and cold medicine. For the most part, no one cares how tired you are, how hard you work, or what's in your baby's diaper. No one.

Okay, my mom cares.

Also, I'm friends with people on Facebook and other online social media in more than just a friend capacity - or just a mom capacity, for that matter. I have professional contacts whom I don't want to inform that I may or may not be having a mental breakdown because every time I put a certain someone down so I can hit the restroom they scream as though I'm removing their fingernails.

This doesn't make me or anyone else fake. It makes us conscientious. That's right: We are the quiet heroes of Facebook. Our influence is subtle and civil. We Snopes before we repost, we think about our moms before uploading pictures, and we don't talk about politics. You're welcome.

Your blood pressure is lower and your eyes haven't rolled out of their sockets, all because we don't post the drama-rama.

So if someone calls you fake for posting nice things on Facebook and not uploading pictures of yourself in sweatpants, mussed hair, and dealing with puke and catfights, just consider the source, and remember the old adage: If you don't have anything nice to post, maybe you shouldn't post anything at all.


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