You can’t put your life on hold to help others handle their business; you have to make it clear that you’ve got better things to do. Your time and tolerance are both precious regardless of the high maintenance people around you.
Try as you might, you can’t gloss this over. The truth can hurt, but lies will only keep you from finding fulfillment. Unwillingness to hear what you don’t want to hear will leave you seeing what you don’t want to see.
Making someone over is hard; don’t be shocked if the pressure of change and self-awareness prove to be more than they can handle. You want to help, but the decision about how they should behave ultimately rests with them.
Never underestimate your contributions; they may seem inconsequential, but none of this would be happening if it wasn’t for you. Try not to forget that they’re definitely getting something out of all of this as well.
People are impossible to second guess because you can never really know what their true intentions might be. What they do next is certainly a big issue, but you need to just stop worrying and focus on the things you can control.
Speak up! Miscommunication – or else a complete lack of communication – has left you thinking the worst at a time when nothing could be further from the truth. You can easily fix things with a little honest conversation.
The buck stops here. You need to stop blaming things on others and look at life in a different light. Unless you change, your habit of never owning up to the part you play will remain a source of supreme difficulty.
You have to be happy in order to find your happiness. It may sound a bit counterintuitive, but the idea that others can meet the needs that you yourself cannot is quite simply a myth. No one can give you what you seek.
Sometimes, reverse psychology is the best way to handle things. It would be fairly easy to achieve all of your goals if you could just stop caring so much about the specifics and just let things play out as they may.
Don’t allow someone else’s needs to hold you hostage in a situation that isn’t working and seems only to be helping them. There’s no shame in refusing to bow to expectations that are far too high – not to mention irrelevant.
Don’t be afraid to shake things up a little bit in your unending pursuit of happiness. You might not know what exactly the issue is, but something is off. If one thing isn’t working, feel free to just try another tactic.
It may not always seem like things are progressing as they should, but you just need to have a little patience. Sometimes plans take a little longer than expected to completely unfold. Have confidence in your path.
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