Others may not have the proper qualifications but they have more than enough integrity. At this point the way people look on paper is considerably less important than who they really are. Don’t allow yourself to be fooled by appearances.
Don’t expect too much from yourself and don’t let others suck up your energy. You’ve got so many things going on and so much to contend with; you’re bound to go nuts if you don’t reserve the better part of you for yourself.
The work situation is off the charts. If there’s nothing you can do about it, find a way to love it. With very little energy free for other things, conserve yourself as best you can and bow to the need to keep it simple for a while.
Whatever isn’t working can’t be blamed entirely on externals; you made this bed. Admit your responsibility. The current situation would make more sense if you could own up to the fact that blind faith made it hard to see the truth.
If the emotional atmosphere is thicker than usual, try and consider it an opportunity to get to the bottom of a few things. You could avoid this - or you could face it head on and save yourself a lot of trouble down the road apiece.
You can’t pretend this doesn’t bother you, but how to express it? The problem is; if you show any sign that you’re angry about it at all, you will fall into a trap. Find another way to vent or you'll get a whole lot more than you bargained for.
In order to know what to keep and what to throw away, you need to figure out what it is that truly matters to you. Nothing in your life will have meaning until you dispense with the stuff that keeps you apart from your purpose.
You keep rewinding back to the beginning of the same old thing. Grinding your axe and using the past as an excuse for all kinds of inappropriate behavior will only go so far with those who have to put up with it. Eventually, you’ll lose them.
Certain things need to be maintained but not at your expense. The desire to branch out and move beyond previous limitations makes it imperative that you give most of yourself over to your assortment of newer passions.
In the midst of changes like this it’s best to roll with it. You aren’t sure about anything and neither is your partner – absolute certainty is impossible - but the one thing you both know is that you can’t recreate the past. It’s time to let go.
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