Admin

Posted by

Katy England Katy England
This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it
edge staff writer

Share

Conflict resolution (03-23-2016)

Rate this item
(0 votes)

I used to know what my opinions about things were. And some days I still have a decent handle on it. But on others, I'm a mess of conflicting emotions about stuff. Today is a snow day. I feel really weird about it. On the one hand, it's annoying, because instead of a half day in which I can do work, I have to try to cram it into a smaller window of time. On the other hand, I'm weirdly happy that they have some nice fresh snow to play with. This is beyond bizarre; I stopped enjoying snow around the same time I started having to drive in it.

Then my son came down with a sudden and gross stomach bug. I was somewhat relived he had it on a snow day, because otherwise it would have happened while he was in school and I would have had to bring him home. And who knows how much work I would have gotten done at that point. See, when I have less time, sometimes I can actually get more done.

I cranked out two stories before the kids came down to breakfast. But I wouldn't have done that if they had had school. I would have done something normal like drink a hot cup of coffee or clean a room. When the kids are home, I rarely drink hot coffee. Maybe a sip. Then something happens and by the time I make it back around to my coffee mug, it's tepid at best. Stone cold at worst.

But on such days when I have extra kid stuff to do, I also kind of hate it. It means I'm often glued to my laptop, trying to eke out some words while the kids play or watch a show. And yes, I do take breaks on occasion to play with them or read them a book, but I don't like that I'm stuck to my laptop like white on rice on some days. Especially on days when they want to play.

I'm even conflicted about being conflicted. I know I'm blessed to have a job that allows me to stay home on a snowy day and do my work in the pockets of time available to me.

And I'd be surprised if absolutely everyone doesn't feel conflict like this, whether it's conflicted about not playing with a kid when you need to cook dinner to pick up around the house, conflicted about dropping your beans at school or daycare, or conflicted about being at work while a spouse is at home. And sometimes, instead of seeing each other as all trying to do our best, we get hung up on who is doing something better. Sometimes we do that to ourselves I see people bringing their kids everywhere, and think I should be doing that more.

But you also have to remember to count the awesome things you're doing. Like after-dinner dance parties, post-bad dream hugs and tickle fights. It's just a good idea to remember to relax about the conflict and just enjoy the good stuff. Until the next conflict.

More in this category: « Edge Mom: Singleton envy

70 comments

  • Comment Link JoshuaBricy Tuesday, 07 November 2017 23:54 posted by JoshuaBricy

    is 25mg viagra enough
    viagra generic
    where to order real viagra
    viagra generic
    can i take 150 mg of viagra

  • Comment Link Randyplamy Tuesday, 07 November 2017 11:13 posted by Randyplamy

    how to buy viagra in dubai
    viagra generic
    forum for generic viagra
    viagra generic
    drug price viagra

  • Comment Link VictorBoinc Monday, 06 November 2017 16:12 posted by VictorBoinc

    get rid viagra
    viagra generic
    viagra south africa price
    viagra generic availability
    buy original viagra online

  • Comment Link Dariusnib Friday, 03 November 2017 09:35 posted by Dariusnib

    where to get viagra uk
    buy viagra online
    how to buy genuine viagra online
    viagra pills
    safest website buy viagra

  • Comment Link DanteRonna Friday, 03 November 2017 01:46 posted by DanteRonna

    viagra cheap next day delivery
    buy viagra online
    compare prices viagra cialis
    cheap viagra
    farmaci generici equivalenti viagra

  • Comment Link JerrySew Wednesday, 01 November 2017 00:42 posted by JerrySew

    buy cialis in india
    buy cialis online
    cheap viagra cialis uk
    cialis pills
    cialis buy online generic

  • Comment Link JosephCeate Friday, 27 October 2017 18:09 posted by JosephCeate

    where to order cialis in canada
    cialis cost
    generic cialis buy online
    buy cialis
    cialis pills in uk

  • Comment Link GraceNIC Friday, 27 October 2017 06:52 posted by GraceNIC

    celebrex
    generic celebrex
    celebrex online
    buy propecia online
    finasteride 1mg
    propecia
    finasteride

  • Comment Link OrlandoHob Wednesday, 25 October 2017 18:29 posted by OrlandoHob

    cheap real cialis
    cialis online
    generic cialis wholesale
    cialis online
    buy viagra und cialis

  • Comment Link EdwardAnise Wednesday, 25 October 2017 11:16 posted by EdwardAnise

    the cheapest generic cialis
    cheap cialis
    how to split pills cialis
    buy cialis online
    cialis for sale australia

<< Start < Prev 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 Next > End >>

Leave a comment

Make sure you enter the (*) required information where indicated.
Basic HTML code is allowed.

Advertisements

Website CMS and Development by Links Online Marketing, LLC, Bangor Maine